There were so many of them -- boys and men of all ages and sizes. Some were tall, some were short, some looked nice and some not so nice.
Only one seemed to stand out to me.
He played a lot of the part of the stereotype tall, dark and handsome figure and he had the deepest brown eyes. He was an observer; standing along the edge of crowds just watching and listening. Not the life of the party type of guy at all. Although, once engaged in conversation, he was a good conversationalist. He knew how to make people feel comfortable.
I couldn't believe how well he made me feel relaxed. "That Toby sure is a nice guy," I remember commenting to a friend that day.
But, I only knew a fraction of the whole truth. Four months later, I started a life of learning about this man even more.
Sometimes when I look back on our early days and reflect on how unlikely it ever could've been for us to meet, get to know each other and then get married, I still marvel at how our lives have so perfectly merged into one. It's like it was always meant to go this way.
I've learned 2 things that I never believed before I was married. Actually, I never really gave thought to these matters until Toby came into my life.
Number 1: Love at first sight DOES exist and is very real.
Number 2: It isn't just by chance that some couples meet.
The chance of Toby and I ever having our paths crossed was highly unlikely to happen. Nothing in our lives was conducive to putting us in the same place at the same time. In some ways, we were both aware of mutual groups of friends and had similar backgrounds but when it came right down to it, we were farther from meeting each other than just the distance between Wisconsin and Nebraska.
And to think this far and distant person is the one I've celebrated 4 anniversaries with... The man who takes me to the hospital to have a baby... The man who's name is at the end of my signatures... The man I spent an entire weekend with celebrating a life of love.
God's ways sure are filled with surprises.
Yet, it only took one meeting and we met and just 4 months later were married.
Toby is perfect.
Yes, I really said that and can still say that after 4 years of living with the guy. I know the Bible says no man is perfect but in every sense of the word, Toby is perfect for me.
And the more I get to know him, the more I find ways to be perfect for him.
I love you, Honey, and look forward to many more years with you!